Dating In The Workplace: How To Make It Work

January 24, 2018
Robert Sanders
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Estimated Read Time: 5 Minutes

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  • Before you go public or disclose to your office and coworkers that you and a fellow coworker are dating you need to define the relationship. 
  • Make sure that your company allows for office relationships. If your company does, then you and your significant other go to your human resources department and disclose the information
  • The relationship is important but you can’t allow it to get in the way of you doing your job.
  • Take things slow and see if it truly does even turn into a relationship, because if it doesn’t work out, it’s pretty embarrassing going back to your human resources team to tell them you’re no longer together.
  • A lot of policy issues could come into play and some companies just don’t want to deal people dating in the office, so they don’t allow it.


Dating in the workplace, it’s a timeless tale. But doesn’t it seem like a topic that people never want to talk about? Why is that? A lot of people find their significant other at their jobs or in their office. So why does it feel so awkward when we talk about this? Maybe because people don’t know how to go about it the right way? Or maybe they fear that if they do it or talk about it they could lose their job. Since there seems to be so much gray area on what you can and can’t do, most people just rather leave the topic alone altogether. But not me! I’m ready to talk about dating in the workplace and inform you on how to make your office romance actually work! Well, at least how to make it work for making it public in your office and disclosing the information correctly. How to make an actual relationship work? Yeah, I’m not touching that one.      

 

So How Do You Go About Doing This?    

So first things first, actually take the time to consider if you’re actually dating your coworker. This may seem silly, but I’m telling you now, you’re not dating your coworker just because you may have a crush on them and you’ve gone to get drinks or do a happy hour a couple of times. That, my friend, is just a crush. But good news! You don’t have to disclose that.

Before you go public or disclose to your office and coworkers that you and a fellow coworker are dating you need to define the relationship. Make sure you’re on the same page and that each of you mutually feel the same, and that both of you are ready to go public with your relationship. It would not be wise to disclose information about you and your coworker’s dating life if the other person was not comfortable or ready to do so. So this may sound cliché, but take things slow.   

 

How To Disclose That You’re Dating Your Coworker

Disclose, disclose, disclose. You keep hearing me talk about disclosing the information that you’re dating your coworker to your human resources department, but you have to know how to go about it. You first need to check your company’s policy. Make sure that your company allows for office relationships. If your company does, then you and your significant other go to your human resources department and disclose the information. You do this to protect yourself and to be transparent so to protect you from any pitfalls that you could possibly run into.

 

Now, unfortunately some companies do not allow for inner office relationships. So at this point you and your significant other have to make a choice. Decide to continue dating and one of you quits their job, or end the relationship. Or you could just sneak and continue to date. But if you get caught or your relationships goes public then you both could risk losing your jobs. So be careful if you choose to take that route, because that’s a major risk if you decide to date your coworker.

 

There’s Always Going to Be Risk

No surprise here. Of course, there are risks that come into play when dating your coworker. There are a plethora of risks to choose from, but let’s go over my top three.

  1. Impacting Your Work
    • What do I mean by that? Well, if you begin to date your coworker and you work in a small office it might be hard to focus. Maybe you’re talking all the time, texting, sending emails, using slack, whatever it might be. It’s pulling you both away from doing your job. The relationship is important and that’s great! But you can’t allow it to get in the way of you doing your job.

 

  1. Things Might Not Work Out
    • Not every relationship ends in marriage. You have to be careful when you start to date a coworker because when things don’t work out, it could get very awkward and very uncomfortable coming to work every day. That’s why it’s best to really take things slow and see if it truly does even turn into a relationship, because if it doesn’t work out, it’s pretty embarrassing going back to your human resources team to tell them you’re no longer together.

 

  1. You Could Get Fired
    • As mentioned before, some companies don’t allow dating in the workplace. A lot of policy issues could come into play and some companies just don’t want to deal with it. So what do you do? Well, you either break up….or you risk getting fired. So you have to ask yourself “Is this person worth losing my job for?”   

Are The Risks Worth It?

With so many risks, is it even worth it? Why are people still dating their coworkers and taking what seems like such a huge risk? What’s the deal, right? Well, ultimately, it’s really up to you. There are a lot of married couples that met each other through their jobs.

So maybe that could be you and your significant other, or maybe not. You never know. So it may seem like a huge risk. But for some, having the opportunity to be with that right person is the easiest decision they could ever make.

Closing Thoughts 

Want to know more about this topic? Then check out the episode, “Dating in the Workplace”, from our podcast “The Water Cooler Podcast”! For more great content and to listen to fun office topics follow the links below to subscribe to our podcast. To learn more, or if you have any questions, please email me at rsanders@validityscreening.com.

 

 

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Robert Sanders

Written by Robert Sanders

Robert is our Marketing Executive. He is innovative, a creative thinker, and very good at digging into a problem to find the right answer for every topic. Robert speaks on various topics and brings about a lot of interesting points in different areas of business development and human resources. Robert loves to push the envelope and bring awareness to different issues and is also the voice of our podcast "The Water Cooler Podcast" .